There is an abundance of pornography on the internet, and much of is available for free. Most of it, in my opinion, is deeply offensive. It portrays men thinking only of themselves. The book in the accompanying photo speaks on that theme.
I suspect that pornography provides an accurate statement about the dominant male point of view. We would do well to notice this situation.
I recently watched a lesbian scene that featured Nina Hartley, a long-time veteran of the industry. The scene was, in my opinion, charming, as she is. Scenes that feature men are rarely, if ever, charming in my opinion. I think there is a lesson in that.
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I have also viewed Nina in a scene in which she provides a tutorial on pleasuring a woman by hand. She presents it in a way that I find charming. It is a fine adjunct to the book you see in the photo.
I think that, as a society, we rebuke pornography, yet we also embrace it. The hypocrisy of this is informative. Hypocrisy is the greatest burden we bear today, in my opinion.
hypocrisy: the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform; pretense.
We live in a state of denial and pretense. We are constantly at war. We are addicted to putting people in prison. We live by a double standard based on gender, skin color, and where people were born.
I suggest looking at pornography to add to our understanding of our self-image. Pornography, done well, is informative, even charming. Nina Hartley shows us that.
Jackson Katz offers this observation in his book The Macho Paradox:
There is no getting around the fact that violent boys and men are products of our culture, and as such are influenced by ideas about manhood that teach individual males what is expected of them—in and out of relationships with women.
I am suggesting that pornography is a valuable reflecting mirror of male attitudes. To deny that is to reject a profound learning opportunity.