I asked my wonderful massage therapist the ratio of her client base by gender. She told me it includes more women. The men, she told me, are mostly interested in the mechanics of the massage. They rarely explore the comfort or the joy of the experience.
For several years I have attended group photo shoots. Male models are comparatively rare at those events. In my opinion men seldom bring much spirit to photo shoots. They are mostly concerned with caution.
I attended a restorative yoga class last Saturday. There were 10 women and 3 men. The intention of a class of this type is to restore our spirit and our appreciation of owning a body. Many more women than men appreciate that.
Yvette and I attended another performance by the Black Cherry Burlesque last Friday. We were amazed to discover that one of the dance numbers was presented by a guy! And he was very entertaining. This is not to say his stripping held my attention in the usual way, but his performance was indeed fun to watch. How rare to see a man in that venue.
Melissa Stablein posted a link to this video about a grade school teacher who argues that teaching must be electric. It looks extreme to me, but it seems to work, and it explains the point I want to make in this post. Most males close down at school, and they carry this condition their whole life. Men show little inclination to give their peers a good wakeup call.
They believe that if they keep their noses to the ground, stay out of trouble, never challenge the system, and work to maintain the same sort of lifestyle as their role models, they’re doing the right thing. Oblivious to the fact that they’ve been turned into total nerds.—Being Uncool
Many men want to imagine themselves as obedient and proper. Some men tolerate that, others go ballistic. It’s an ugly choice. We have worked ourselves into a dark corner.